WHAT PEOPLE DON'T TELL YOU ABOUT OVERCOMING FEAR - AND HOW TO DO IT.

The thing about fear, is that it does a really great job.
It flies through our veins when it feels a threat, and skyrockets our adrenalin to maximum heights, essentially to prepare us for a potential death.

When we lived as Cavemen, and a saber tooth lion approached our tribal home, this fear allowed us to jump into action, grab our spears, and run at the poor thing head on to protect our loved ones.

But, today, when we have guns, weapons, and seriously advanced warning systems that can tell us to watch out for everything from cholesterol levels creeping higher to an intruder on our property, our fear feels a little confused. It has a very important job to do, you know – it protects you from getting hurt. With less and less to be alert about, fear gets a little lost. Instead of saving our lives, it channels fear channels the energy toward our sense of self.

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THE NO BULLSH*T GUIDE TO FINDING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE

Ok, so there are a few different things we are going to tackle here today in this little (not so little) bite-sized Self Help article.   If you’d like, you can just head right to the bottom of this (unsurprisingly lengthy!) article and read my Top THREE Tips for Living a Purposeful Life, but…. If you really want to make a lasting change, read on and understand the reasons behind WHY we feel the way we feel.

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WHY PEOPLE PISS US OFF

So, I’ve been reading this fab new book – YOU ARE A BAD ASS, by Jen Sincero. Who couldn’t love a book with a name like that? I’m a bad ass! Are you? Anyway – In this book, she details a new concept that I was totally unaware of, and that has made me feel like a total sheep for feeling annoyed or grumpy with other people.  Tell me – when you feel annoyed by someone, it is because they’re doing something annoying, right? That person chewing their gum super loud, or telling everyone about their latest travels (for the 5th time), or that bossy dude bossing everyone around, or that chick who takes her top off at yoga. Ugh, SO annoying – and has totally NOTHING to do with me………

Erm, wrong…….

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A THANK YOU LETTER TO MY BULLIES

Thank you to my bullies. Each and every one of you.

This has been something that has been resting heavily on my mind over the past few months. There is so much I want to dig into here, but lets start at the top.  This is going to be a post about judgement, and about thinking about other people. More than anything, it is going to be a thank you, to each and every bully of mine. Bear with me. Being bullied was an incredibly defining part of my life, and has lead me to become who I am.

I need to warn you, that some things I will be discussing might be a bit uncomfortable for some people. But I made a commitment to write my truth, so that is what I will be doing. In no way, shape, or form do I claim to have been a perfect person – far from it. I made A LOT OF MISTAKES, and continue to do so, like we all do. But it is never a justification for cruelty.

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NEW BEGINNINGS & WALKING AWAY FROM LOVE

Oh, the beauty of new beginnings! Before I get deep on this, let me just start by saying that nothing I write is for anyone else, but me. I write not to engage others, but to share what I think might be useful based on my own experiences and understandings.

A new beginning is a little seed of hope, wrapped up in dreams, and more often than not, tied together with messy rope and broken pieces.

New beginnings often rise from the ashes of an uncomfortable place. They can only truly be welcomed once we accept the ending of a chapter in our lives. How many people get freaked out just thinking about that?

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HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR PAST

When thinking about things we’ve done, or things that have happened to us, it can be really easy to cringe at our past actions, or to perhaps feel a sense of shame, sadness, guilt, maybe wishing and praying we could erase something, or change something….. Whatever it may be. And that’s cool, I get that – there are naturally emotions associated. BUT. What if I told you there was a better way? A way that didn’t include wanting to bury your face in your hands, or go back and change something you said/did, or try to alter the behavior of someone else who might have caused you hurt?

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THE OTHER SIDE OF EGO

So, anyone who knows me, knows that loving people in all situations is a real priority for me. No matter what, I’ve made it my mission to look at people through the eyes of love, to not judge, to understand the INTENTION behind the behavior. This has enabled me to remove my own preconceptions and assumptions, focusing only on where the action might have come from. But…. This last week has been a real challenge for me. And that is what I will be referring to ‘it’ as – a challenge. Because challenges do not own you. We can find a way to overcome a challenge, and to grow from what it has laid in our path.

 

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